Tom Cowan Counselling

Counselling and Psychotherapy in Caterham near Reigate with registered counsellor

My name is Tom Cowan and I have been a practising counsellor in Surrey for the past 7 years. I am committed to providing counselling and psychotherapy in a safe, confidential and non-judgemental environment. I can also offer home visits if this is easier for you. Our initial meeting will last around 60 to 90 minutes to give both of us time to explore whether we would like to continue. I charge only £10 for this as I am aware that cost can be off putting for people unsure whether counselling is for them. Counselling sessions are 60 minutes.

If you are wondering whether counselling might help you but need to find out more to make a decision you can call me on 01883 343742 or 07749 608719 and I will try to answer your questions. Of course I believe counselling can be very helpful, but I won't attempt to sell it to you!

My training has mainly been in what is called psychodynamic counselling, which means literally psycho=mind, and dynamic=movement

I am experienced in helping clients who have issues with all kinds of feelings and situations they find themselves in, especially when they lead to anxiety, depression, panic attacks, or problems with some of the ways in which we try to make ourselves feel better or distract us from our problems which sometimes then feels like the problem itself, such as over use of alcohol, drugs, bingeing on food or shopping, gambling,sex etc. We often avoid thinking about painful events or feelings from the past, either consciously or without realising it, as we want to protect ourselves and avoid pain, but sometimes this can cause problems with our relationships which can be significantly helped by revisiting some of these past experiences in a safe supported way. This is in a nutshell how counselling can help. People often find that however painful and difficult this might seem it is very useful, partly because talking about our fears and insecurities makes them real and what is real is always less frightening than what we can imagine might happen.


I am also interested in exploring why men might be thinking about counselling but have reservations about whether it will be helpful to them.

Our world provides many gadgets to help us, but they can also distract us from being present in our interactions with others and make it harder to enjoy what is happening now. I have found that most of us have issues around relationships with other people; partners,lovers, parents,children, colleagues and friends; and that the feelings we have for others affect the way we feel ourselves
When we struggle with these feelings we often use other things to avoid feeling bad and this can lead to problems such as those mentioned above.

While depression is rightly often talked about as a serious issue, anxiety is also a feeling that can make life very difficult, even unbearable at times.

Counsellors tend to be careful about telling you personal details about themselves; this is because it is important that you are the focus of the work we do together, however it is also important for you to find someone you feel comfortable with so I am happy to answer some questions about myself.
I am 50, married and have lived in Caterham for 17 years.

I have premises in Caterham, within easy reach of Redhill,Reigate,Godstone, Oxted, Warlingham, Woldingham,Whyteleafe Croydon
I can offer short or longer term counselling or psychotherapy.
So if you are in the Caterham,Reigate,Redhill,Oxted,Croydon area of Surrey and are thinking about counselling or psychotherapy please don't hesitate to contact me.